Forgetting the Unforgettable


46638940.cached.jpgIn our Foundation’s Bible Study, we have been going through the a chronological study of the Old Testament.  This past week found us covering the book of Judges.  Let me give a quick synopsis of the book for those unfamiliar.  The book takes place after the conquest of the Promised Land, after the nation of Israel escaped Egypt by God’s power and travail their way through the Wilderness.

It was in this time in the Wilderness that God took a rag tag group of people roughly the population of the state of New Hampshire and made them into a nation for His Name.  He gave them the law, went to great measures to teach them to depend on Him, and taught them how to worship Him.  He knew that they would be going into a land where they would not surround the Tabernacle on a nightly basis and would not behold his glory on a daily basis.  They would not have daily reminders of His faithfulness in the form of food found on the ground.  And more significantly, they would not have the direct leadership of Moses or Joshua leading them and directing them.  They would be dispersed amongst their tribes throughout the land, with the Levites spread out to represent them before God.

By the time the book of Judges starts, the generation of the conquest has died along with Joshua (Judges 2:10).  This generation that had been born in the Wilderness, saw God’s faithfulness first hand, and saw God power through the conquest has passed and handed the baton to the next generation.  Unfortunately, the next generation would fail to regard Yahweh God as holy.

The book of Judges is full of a continuing cycle of the people falling into sin, given over to servitude, crying out for deliverance, seeing a deliverer raised, achieving freedom from oppression, then experiencing some measure of peace until starting the whole cycle over again.  It can be nerve-wracking to see this cycle play itself out over and over and over again!

But the book of Judges starts with some of the most shocking words that you could imagine for a nation at this point in their history.

“And all that generation also were gathered to their fathers.  And there arose another generation after them who did not know the LORD or the work that He had done for Israel.”   Judges 2:10

How can this be?!  How can one generation pass and the next be so ignorant to the truth and reality of their LORD?  How can they not know of the work that God had done for them?  How does such knowledge melt away after just one generation?

The reality is, that God knew this was a possibility.  That’s why he instructed Moses in Deuteronomy 6: 20-25:

“When your son asks you in time to come, ‘What is the meaning of the testimonies and the statutes and the rules that the LORD our God has commanded you?’ then you shall say to your son, ‘We were Pharaoh’s slaves in Egypt.  And the LORD brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand.  And the LORD showed signs and wonders, great and grievous, against Egypt and against Pharaoh and all his household, before our eyes.  And he brought us out from there, that he might bring us in and give us the land that he swore to give to our fathers.  And the LORD commanded us to do all these statutes, to fear the LORD our God, for our good always, that He might preserve us alive, as we are this day.  And it will be righteousness for us, if we are careful to do all this commandment before the LORD our God, as He has commanded us.”

The people were to be talking about the greatness of God and His works in their families.  They were not just to recite law to their kids, but the goodness of God as well.  The goodness of God and His law was to be a central feature in their lives.  Observe Deuteronomy 11:18-23:

“You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.  You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.  You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, that your days and the days of your children may be multiplied in the land that the LORD swore to your fathers to give them, as long as the heavens are above the earth.  For if you will be careful to all this commandment that I command you to do, loving the LORD your God, walking in all His ways, and holding fast to Him, then the LORD will drive out all these nations before you, and you will dispossess nations greater and mightier than yourselves.”

This is what Israel failed to do.  They failed to regard God as holy and teach the law to their children.  They did not make God’s Word a central part of their lives.  The consequences that came were quicker and more severe than anything they could have imagined.

How does a nation so quickly forfeit such responsibilities?  I imagine there were probably many nights where conversations went something like this: “It’s been a long day.  I’ve been building this new home, breaking ground for planting, tending to the flocks, nevermind the work on the front to drive out the tribes around us.  I’m too tired to open up God’s Word.  Let’s just watch TV.”

Ok, maybe they don’t say that last part, but I can see the same temptations in my own life.  It was a long day at work.  I didn’t get much sleep last night and I’m too tired.  It would be much more relaxing just to eat in peace.  This wasn’t an “Israel problem”.  It is a “humanity problem”.  We are so quick to relegate God’s Word to a lower priority.

We must not make the same mistake that Israel did.  These things were recorded so that we might read them and learn.  The mistakes have already been made and recorded so we don’t make the same mistake.  The priority in our homes MUST be to teach God’s greatness and goodness, and the eternal value of loving the LORD our God.  May it not be said of children that they did not know God or what He has done for us.

Pastoring a Family

Now that Micah is getting older, I have found how much of a challenge pastoring my own family is becoming.  I don’t mean to say that the family is becoming difficult, but I find that it is stretching me more and more.  I’ve known that I want to have my home model a Christ-centered, Cross-centered family, but I’m finding that more and difficult to do.  For some things, it just doesn’t come naturally.  For example, when it comes to discipline, the easy thing is to tell Micah no and discipline him.  What needs to happen next, though, is an explanation of how that was displeasing to God and disrespectful to me.

I don’t know if it is the fact that this side of my own personal ministry is much more real and immediate for me, but it seems to be much more intimidating than my pastoral ministry.  I guess I feel a sense of confidence that I have been there and done that to a certain degree with Youth Ministry and have a handle on where things are going, but everything is so different and new when it comes to parenting and spiritual training my own family.  And it seems like the impact is much more long lasting, as I’m completely responsible for how I guide my wife and son.

I’ve had general ideas of what I want to do, but life never allows plans to be simple.  Obviously I know many of the general truths of parenting and have read many books on the subject, but it is sometimes more of an art than science.  You know the truths, but applying them can take wisdom and experience.  I want Micah to learn how to pray, learn to study his Bible, grow a Biblical worldview, and see what it means to be a godly father and husband. Leah and I have been reading through “Shepherding a Child’s Heart”, though we both read it before being parents.  We’ve also begun praying in the morning and including Micah in that.  We also want to get some books for Micah to read through in the evening during our reading time before his bedtime.  Anyone with good suggestions, we’re all ears.

Then today I was blog hopping and found this Piper post.  He was asked how he spiritual guides his family.  Here is what he said.

1. We encouraged our children from the very beginning to be alone with the Lord in the morning. That can start as soon as you can prop a child up with a pillow so that he doesn’t topple over and bonk his head. You can set a tape recorder beside him with a song about “Jesus loves me, this I know” or a Bible story.

So a child can have devotions from age 1 on, as strange as that may sound, if you train him to have a little time alone to be with God. He can’t read yet, obviously, and he won’t read yet for another 4 or 5 years. But he can listen and he can enjoy that time. So we did that, and then it turned into Bible stories. Then it turned into giving them their own Bible that they could read, which went on up through teenage devotions.

2. We were at the table together every morning, and I led devotions at breakfast with the children. And if the child is little he just says “Jesus” and that’s all he says. But we used to work our way through the Global Prayer Digest so that there was a missions component. And then we read a short passage of Scripture, and I would pray. It might not take more than 5 minutes, because of the children being little.

3. Then in the evening we had family devotions, which was a little longer. We read a longer portion of Scripture, and all the children–if they were able–would pray, not just me. Noel would pray, I would pray, and each of the children would pray. And as soon as they could talk, we taught them to pray.

4. And then when we put them to bed, we tucked them in, blessed them with

The Lord bless you and keep you.
The Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you.
The Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace,
and joy, and hope, and love, and a good night’s rest,
and someday a godly husband. (Talitha will always laugh when I say this last line.)

And then I sing a song for Talitha. And then I give her a big hug. There is a very definite routine that we walk through. And there is a word component even as you tuck the child in bed at night.

That has been the routine for 31 years, basically, though I don’t want to create the impression that it is flawless or that we didn’t miss mornings or evenings. We did, but this was the goal and the routine. And pretty much we have been able to keep with it.

Hope someone might find this helpful!